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Relationships – It’s all in the timing!

The classic scene

What women can resist watching When Harry met Sally?  There are certain nights when I for one certainly can’t ignore my womanly desire for chocolate and a little touch of romance!

 The film raises the question “Can men and women ever just be friends?” and opens up ideas about love that became household concepts, such as those of the “high-maintenance” girlfriend and the “transitional person” to help us recover from heart-break.

Another interesting aspect of the film that struck a chord with me was how Harry and Sally meet randomly at different times in their life before they eventually are able to connect and fall in love.

The couple meet a number of times before they are both in the same frame of mind to connect as friends. To begin with, Harry is too forthright and opinionated for the naive Sally. She is bewildered by him. As the years pass, Sally becomes more sussed. Thankfully Harry softens a little! They both in a sense have grown up and grown together, despite never being together as a couple.

The point is – the film shows us if timing is off then a relationship of any kind, whether platonic or romantic will struggle to grow.

If circumstances are off, if the two people are not on the same page emotionally, if the two people at that time are looking for different things, if the someone or both of them are going through a rough time – then the basic tools to kick-start proceedings are missing.

It’s like having the candle but never being able to light the candle. It seems nice but you’ll never be able to enjoy the flame, the scent, the warmth if there is no fire burning. Things just never quite begin. The relationship will stall.

We need good timing, good chemistry and similar circumstances for us to be able to connect. It’s pretty random and it’s down to chance. We can’t force relationships to flourish. 

But remember this – if love or friendship is meant to grow, it will. It is the most powerful force imaginable. You won’t be able to ignore the flame that burns brightly in your life! Like a moth, you’ll have to get closer to the energy!


About Alana Munro

Writer. Mama to three, wife to one. Red wine consumer.


3 thoughts on “Relationships – It’s all in the timing!

  1. Thanks for this post, very helpful! I know many girls in this position where the relationship could be so good but the timing is off. Do you have any advice for girls in this situation?

    Posted by Hayley, Steph and Sarah | November 3, 2011, 12:33 pm
    • Hi there Hayley, thanks for your comment. It’s appreciated. Yeah it sucks big time when things could have been great but the timing is all wrong! Perhaps the best thing for these chicks to do is ‘check back in’ at a later date. In the meantime, keeping super busy with lots planned with good friends, lots of red wine, lots of TLC, lots of chocolate and laughter. Be open to all opportunities and new people that come into life. If the person is meant to be part of our story, he or she will make sure they are part of it. Trust in fate and chance. 🙂 x

      Posted by Alana Munro | November 3, 2011, 12:47 pm
  2. Nice article, I’ve enjoyed reading it.
    kind regards,

    Posted by karen | January 19, 2012, 3:44 am

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