Well ladies, there is no doubt we have come a long way. Whilst I’m not advocating the burning of bra’s (I quite like what they do for my breasts thank you very much), it is reassuring to see that in 2010 women are not expected to meet a gentleman’s every single tiny need and desire. Find your own slippers love!
The advice given below continued to dominate until the freedom of the 1960’s (mostly due to the sexual freedom brought on by the pill) took hold of society. But in many uneducated and insular pockets of society it was not until the 1980’s that the majority of men started to treat their wife as a life partner and equal human being with needs and desires that went beyond babies, cleaning and cooking.
With women’s pursuit for equality, this resulted in the influx of career girls. The idea that a woman can do any job a man can was high on the agenda. It was survival of the fittest. But who was raising the kids? Who was managing the home? Cleaning the bathroom? The women were typically. In the attempt to feel free and have choices, some women have been left frazzled and exhausted. We can’t quite have it all and do it all without something suffering. This recent realisation that we are not super human should hopefully ease the pressure somewhat. Perhaps the best move forward is for men and women to both share the responsibility of parenting, income generating and homemaking equally. Even in 2010, women can still do 80 per cent of the house work AND they work outside the home. Working as a team on the same side as opposed to competitors could be the answer to future happiness.
It’s a fascinating subject. If you have any insights please do add your comments below.
Advice to Wives
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dust cloth over the tables.
Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him.
Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
Your goal: To try and make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
A good wife always knows her place.
google_protectAndRun(“ads_core.google_render_ad”, google_handleError, google_render_ad);